Friday, November 16, 2007

Arrange Marriage.........


So what is an arranged marriage?? I bet most people do know what it is.........it is actually a marriage arranged by someone other than the persons getting married and it usually avoids the courtship process.

arranged marriages are numerous still in today's modern world, especially in Middle-East, parts of Africa, Asia and India. The term is used even if parents of the pair who are getting married have no direct involvement in selecting the spouse. however, a matchmaker will be selected to play a major role in the matchmaking.



I have been thinking of the term for quite awhile. Especially listening to my friend's story as below.......


"Amy* is a friend of mine who studied at the same University as me. We used to hang out together and we would talk about our problems, experiences, happiness and sadness, sharing with each other.

But one day i noticed something very strange about her. she looked so stressed and couldn't quit smoking. at one point, i thought she was going to finish 2 packets of cigarettes in a go! Yes she was very, very stressed. So I asked her what was wrong. At first she was hesitant to tell me but finally she gave in.


She told me though she is still a student but her parents, coming from a very traditional Indian family, kept bugging her on getting married after she obtains her degreee. They would call her up often and send her pictures of suitable guys(usually much older) and let her choose. But of course, most of them were successful business men or doctors. Still young and with a bright future infront of her, of course marriage is not yet on Amy's* mind. she wants freedom she says. But yet it's so hard for her to concentrate on studies when her parents won't leave her alone.


So finally she gives in, in order to safe her studies and pass her exams. Yes and the parents are still deciding on a guy for her"


Personally, I don't agree with arranged marriages or forced marriages. I think it's just cruel and forceful. It's not right. I feel sorry for my friend.


But of course, there will be people out there who actually think arranged marriages work. What do you think? ? do you agreee or disagree? and why??


I Am Against Arranged Marriage!!WHY??


1) I dislike the prospect of being married to someone who i do not already loved or someone i have no sexual attraction or emotional feelings towards. That would be odd!! I just don't buy the idea.


2) Every Individual on the surface of the earth are and supposed to be in charged of their own lives. Let people make their own decisions and let them choose their own partners, the one that they would like to spend the rest of their lives with.


3) Arranged marriage in my opinion, if viewed in the narrow terms of individual rights and personal growth, is a great denial of self.



But....thinking about it, there is evidence that love grows in marriages even if the marriage at first doesnt start with love. And also, arranged marriages does point to a 0% or 4% divorce rate. So why is that? What do you think?? What keeps couples together even though their marriage was at first, being coined as "loveless"??








Wow!! Feel soooo Happy!!

Wow!! I feel so happy today!!.......I can't stop smiling!! Why? Why?? You ask.....

Well, I started work two weeks ago and already, i have received good feedbacks from customers......complimenting me for my good service!! Yay!!

It feels so good to hear those sweet things from customers like "Wow!! What's your name? Your service is good!!" or "What's your name? That was good service". And yes i do enjoy my job......sometimes can be stressful but it's good to know that customers appreciate your effort.

Btw, just in case you wanna know how my customer service skills was like, please refer to the video below :p


Wednesday, November 14, 2007

"Ah Bengs" and "Ah Lians" Overseas Counterparts Wanted!!

Hmm....I was wondering to myself, if there are any different terms being used in different countries for the "Ah Beng" and "Ah Lian" communities?

If there are "Ah Beng" and "Ah Lians" in Malaysia and Singapore right? How bout their overseas counterparts? Am just curious and if only anyone is willing to shed some light hehe.....and enlighten me!!

What are they called? Anyone? :p

The Ah Lians......

Who are the Ah Lians?? Raise your hands!!

"Ah Lians" are actually female version of "Ah Bengs". In order to become a successful and popular "Ah Lian"..........you need all of the essentials stated below :



"Ah Lians" Wannabe Must Haves!!
1) Bleach your hair blonde, orange, purple, green or whatever colours you can ever imagine!! Even if it makes you look like a walking and talking traffic light!! To compliment their Ah Beng bfs cool hair job.
2) Yes, yes!! Skimpy outfits are a must!! No "Ah Lians" would walk on the street or even walk out of their house with outfits that are semi-decent!! Either bare your legs, bare your waist, bare your shoulders or everything at once!! You can even walk on the streets in your favourite bikini if you want.
3) Glamour in a pack - Instant make overs from Cover Looks.
4) Membership at beauty salons and slimming centre.
5) Thick make up - Doesnt matter if you look like a brithday cake.
6) Fancy manicured nails.
7) Tattoos and body piercings are important!! Take note!!
8) Branded goods ranging from handbags to shoes to clothes. Even if it's fake, you still have to flash them all!! To make the Ah Bengs proud!!
9) Sexy high heels - The higher the better......doesn't matter if you sprain your ankle.
10 ) Must know how to shake your bootie!! Make sure you are the queen of the dance floor.

Monday, November 12, 2007

The Typical "Ah Beng"....

If you are a "Ah Beng" wannabe.......this is what you need!!


Must Haves!!

1) Swear alot!! Yes!! The more the merrier!!........never miss out words like "Na Beh!", "Kan Ni Na!!", "Chi Bai" and "Wah Lan Eh" as a start.

2) Long fingernails - yes, the longer the better......especially pinky finger's. They are solely for scratching back and picking nose.

3) Dyed hair - As long as you stand out in the crowd, nothing matters!! You can bleach your hair blonde, yellow,white or whatever!! It doesnt matter. You can even dye your hair half red and half white, nobody cares!!

4) A trademark comb helps. Yes!! vanity helps!! But make sure you keep your comb sticking out from your back pocket, it's fine!! Comes in handy!!

5) Loads of accesories!! Remember, gold chains and neckalces are must haves!!

6) Counterfeit Rolexes to show off.

7) Suzuki GTI/Honda Civic V-Tec, Honda CRX/Nissan 200 FX, outfitted with a sound system that allows everyone in a 2-m vicinity to feel the thump of every single bass beat in your favourite dance remix album. Must be kitted with spoilers and extra body parts, the favourite being The Last Supper attachment at the back of the car, so called because the shape of the whale tail-type attachment looks like the table in the Last Supper painting. And to make it the ultimate Beng mobile - disco lights that light up when you hit the brakes.

8) Branded goods such as "Valentino", DKNY, Versace and any "big big" names you can remember are to be displayed at all times!! Labels are also to be displayed prominently and to be read by all.

9) Branded jeans, shiny polyster cyber techno shirts, tight fitting jeans with flare, gaudy patterned shirts are vital in order to look cool and hip.

10) Membership in discos are essential to ensure a supply of "Ah Lian"(female version) babes. Hip "Ah Lian" babes to show off to fellow Ah Bengs.

"Ah Bengs"....Our National Pride!!

The term “Ah Beng” comes from the Chinese words 阿明 is a word commonly used in the names of Chinese males in South-East Asia region, particularly Malaysia and Singapore; It means “bright”. However, the term is also stereotypically portrayed to be anti-intellectual, superficial, materialistic and shallow.

The ages of “Ah Beng” ranges from early teens to late 20s and are usually seen as originating from a smaller or much rural areas. Their language consists of local dialect such as Hokkien and Cantonese, mixing with English and Malay at times.In short, they speak Manglish!

“Ah Beng” like to use phrases like “what lah?!”( when they are annoyed), “Ha nah!!”(as to meaning yes I know), “Oi!!”(for hey!), “Happy lah!!”(now are you happy?!), “On ah!”(meaning deal!), “Not happy ar?”(are you not happy?) etc etc…….just a few examples.



If you have already noticed, they like to end every single phrases with the Malaysian “lah” or “nah”. In other words, the only English that they are only bothered to know were DIRECT TRANSLATION from the local Hokkien dialect ! Furthermore, "Ah Bengs" are also a bunch of swearing machines. Swearing is their past time.

“Ah Beng” are also sometimes associated with extensively modified or zhng-ed cars and they are also known to be excessively flashy and show-offs. They usually like excessively gaudy patterned shirts and matching them with some tight fitting jeans and if possible, loads of accessories to compliment!! Gold jade rings and gold often counterfeit Rolexes. Also!! To grow their nails resembling a witch’s is also one of their hobbies. What for? I do not know. But I have seen quite a number of them picking their noses with their pinky fingers. Ewww!!



There are some very successful “Ah Bengs” too. Owning chains of coffee shops (or kopitiam in local dialect-Hokkien), food courts (yes they love food) , karaoke lounges (oh yes, they love to sing too), small property development companies, budget hotels and foreign labour supply companies all over Malaysia. Recently, a more dangerous kind of Techno-Ah Bengs have emerged, Ah bengs who can rig up a computerised race-horse betting system complete with a touch of telecommunications.




Sunday, November 11, 2007

Cultural Learnings of Malaysia For The Make Benefit of Nations Around The World.....

Yes, yes cultural learning chapter 1!! National pride of Malaysia......Manglish!! (or mangled english to be exact):p

Malaysia is a land of paradoxes. Chinese ladies in short skirts walk the streets side by side with Malay Muslims wearing Islamic headscarf. To gaze on the ultra-modern Petronas Towers in downtown Kuala Lumpur, you could hardly imagine that this is the same country where sleepy fishing villages dot the coast.

When it comes to language, there are even more surprises in store.

English is widely used here, Malaysia being the former colony of Britain. There are three Anglophone daily newspapers in the capital, English television and radio stations. Bookshops such as the nationwide chain MPH offer many more books in English than in any other language. Yes, and even roadsigns are in English.....

In the fashionable shopping districts and the upmarket cafes, where the espresso class lounge, you can hear English spoken everywhere but what kind of English is it that Malaysians speak???

That’s the interesting part. There are those that speak English better, one suspects, than half of England. Then, of course, there are some who cannot speak the language at all. However, most Malaysians are somewhere in between. They speak a corrupted form of English, often referred to as “Manglish”—Malaysian English or perhaps Mangled English?

Let me give you some examples. In Manglish, when someone has gone out of town, he is said to be “outstation.” There, a mobile phone is known as a handphone rather than cellphone.

Malaysians call slippers what the British call sandals, and during sales, in the shops, there are plenty of signs announcing, “Buy one, free one.”

If you want a glass of water, you ask for “skyjuice”

Manglish grammar has its own unique set of rules. For example, the use of already, “He go home already”

Then, there is the famous “can or not?” as in, “You borrow to me five dollars, can or not?”.

Another important aspect of Manglish is the use of “lah.”

“Lah” does not have any actual meaning, but Malaysians like to pepper their sentences with it. But i think it is more of Malay influence:

“Why you so like that, lah?”

“No lah.”

“So I told him lah that he cannot go lah.”

Malaysians scored a victory a couple of years ago when “lah” was introduced into the official Oxford English Dictionary. They were slightly less happy to see that the entry listed its usage as Singaporean English.

You see, Singapore, has its own version of English, known as Singlish, which is very similar to the Malaysian variety.

English is only one of the many languages that a visitor will hear in Malaysia. There is Bahasa Malaysia, also known as Bahasa Melayu or simply Bahasa, as well as a number of Chinese dialects including Mandarin, Cantonese, Hokkien and Teochew. You’ll also hear several Indian languages such as Tamil and Punjabi.

Malaysians have a habit of mixing two or more of these languages together when they speak, sometimes even in one sentence. So, don’t be surprised if you hear sentences like these:

“Aiyo, the lif is rosak already! Mari-lah, we use the stairs one.”

This translates to: “Oh no! The elevator is out of order. Come, let’s use the stairs.”

Note the words "Aiyo","lif", "rosak" and "mari-lah"..... are actually Malay.

English has particularly affected Bahasa Malaysia in the form of loan words.

For example, “makhlumat,” which means information, is not used often anymore. Instead, the loan word, “informasi” is gaining in popularity.

There is “bas” for bus, “rileks” or “rilek” for relax, and “restoran” for restaurant.

English loan words are especially common in technology and science. Therefore, you’ll hear the words “teknologi” and “sains.”


These loan words are very popular with the younger “generasi.”(generation)

Bahasa has many different words for “I” and “you”, but Malaysians still find room for these English words in their speech.

In this way, “I love you” can be expressed as “I sayang you”, and one might also ask, “You sayang I?”

Note that "sayang" is also a Malay word meaning love

Tourists need not worry too much, though. Although they may hear some pretty strange things while they are here, like how my bf frowned when he overheard some strange phrases, a good command of English is enough to ensure that they will not be in a situation where they are stuck with no way to communicate.

In fact, tourist are likely to be charmed by the unique way the language has evolved here (yes, my bf even took the trouble to learn Manglish from me wahahaha). It is quite likely that they’ll pick up a bit of the local lingo while they are here and if they choose to stay on a little while longer, they are sure to wake up one day to find themselves speaking Manglish.

Last week, I attended a Deepavali open house(my colleague's Indian) and met this British guy who has gotten married to a Malay lady and raising 4 kids and the weird thing is, he speaks 100% Manglish!! If it wasn't that he told me he came from the UK, I wouldnt have guessed(though of course, he looks different from me). But he sounded totally Malaysian.

English has been in Malaysia since the colonial days, although Manglish is a relatively new development.

Recently, there has been much lament in the Malaysian media about the decline in the standard of English in the country. There have been government campaigns and Science and Mathematics in schools will now be taught in English.

Although the government, unlike Singapore, has not yet taken an official stand against non-standard usage, one gets the feeling that Malaysians will not give up their Manglish that easily lah.

Why?? Because It is our identity as Malaysians.......lah...... still need to ask ah??