Arrange Marriage.........

So what is an arranged marriage?? I bet most people do know what it is.........it is actually a marriage arranged by someone other than the persons getting married and it usually avoids the courtship process.

arranged marriages are numerous still in today's modern world, especially in Middle-East, parts of Africa, Asia and India. The term is used even if parents of the pair who are getting married have no direct involvement in selecting the spouse. however, a matchmaker will be selected to play a major role in the matchmaking.

I have been thinking of the term for quite awhile. Especially listening to my friend's story as below.......

"Amy* is a friend of mine who studied at the same University as me. We used to hang out together and we would talk about our problems, experiences, happiness and sadness, sharing with each other.

But one day i noticed something very strange about her. she looked so stressed and couldn't quit smoking. at one point, i thought she was going to finish 2 packets of cigarettes in a go! Yes she was very, very stressed. So I asked her what was wrong. At first she was hesitant to tell me but finally she gave in.

She told me though she is still a student but her parents, coming from a very traditional Indian family, kept bugging her on getting married after she obtains her degreee. They would call her up often and send her pictures of suitable guys(usually much older) and let her choose. But of course, most of them were successful business men or doctors. Still young and with a bright future infront of her, of course marriage is not yet on Amy's* mind. she wants freedom she says. But yet it's so hard for her to concentrate on studies when her parents won't leave her alone.

So finally she gives in, in order to safe her studies and pass her exams. Yes and the parents are still deciding on a guy for her"

Personally, I don't agree with arranged marriages or forced marriages. I think it's just cruel and forceful. It's not right. I feel sorry for my friend.

But of course, there will be people out there who actually think arranged marriages work. What do you think? ? do you agreee or disagree? and why??

I Am Against Arranged Marriage!!WHY??

1) I dislike the prospect of being married to someone who i do not already loved or someone i have no sexual attraction or emotional feelings towards. That would be odd!! I just don't buy the idea.

2) Every Individual on the surface of the earth are and supposed to be in charged of their own lives. Let people make their own decisions and let them choose their own partners, the one that they would like to spend the rest of their lives with.

3) Arranged marriage in my opinion, if viewed in the narrow terms of individual rights and personal growth, is a great denial of self.

But....thinking about it, there is evidence that love grows in marriages even if the marriage at first doesnt start with love. And also, arranged marriages does point to a 0% or 4% divorce rate. So why is that? What do you think?? What keeps couples together even though their marriage was at first, being coined as "loveless"??